Thursday, January 7, 2010

don't feed me that bullshit called love

This society binds all women's choices up in flimsy wrappings called, "love."

Why does love denote such a degree of servitude for us women? We are brought up to believe that romantic (hetero) love is the most important thing that can happen to us,while at the same time telling us that if we love someone, we will want to cook and clean and sexually gratify, pick up dirty laundry, produce babies and put 90% of our time and energy caring for them, for other people. Then refer to us in such ways as, "The old ball and chain." If we don't want this, we are looked down upon.



Sequoia Redd said...

YES! Thank you for saying this.

Anishinaabekwe said...

It is true! I have been learning to love myself for the past 4 years. In learning to love myself and heal I have to break down walls in society that say I need a partner. When in fact it is the last thing I need. I enjoy my solitude very much.

haveyouseenthisgirl said...

heh, that's one way of looking at it. Does it have to be like that though? I don't think so.